The teen and parent relationship is a mystery that has yet to be solved. Many books on parenting teens and the parent/teen relationship have been written on this subject, with titles ranging from Scream Free Parenting, The Teen Whisperer, and How to Hug a Porcupine (I am guessing that we teens are the porcupines, but maybe I am wrong!) 🙂
Society gives the modern teen a certain mold to conform to when it comes to how we interact with the parental unit. It tells us to get mad at them easily for the rules that they put in place to protect us. It says that being rebellious is cool, and that acting out is acceptable and part of the process of becoming a teenager. It tells us that hurting and disrespecting our parents is okay.
Is it really?
Meanwhile, our parents are stressed out trying to figure where they went wrong, and why their kid is rolling their eyes, and giving them attitude. Our parents work hard, provide for us, and to be treated by their own kid in such a fashion is unacceptable.
The teen years are for learning, making mistakes, and growing into the person that God wants us to be. The teen years are not given to us just so that we can drive our parents crazy and make them miserable. In fact, the Bible clearly points out how we, as teens, should treat our parents, and how our parents should discipline us.
Proverbs 1:8, “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching.”
Ephesians 6:1-4,”Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
Deuteronomy 5:16, “Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 , “If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear.”
Proverbs 29:15, “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.”
We should treat our parents with dignity, honor and respect, not with hurtful words that bury deep and pierce the soul. When we treat our parents with honor and respect that they deserve, we are showing them that we love and appreciate them.
So instead of arguing and being disrespectful, try showing your parents how much you truly love them. Remember, actions speak louder than words!
Think about what you do for your parents right now and please be honest. Do you clean up your room so that they will have one less thing to worry about? Do you clean up after dinner so they can put their feet up after a stressful day of work? Do you offer to babysit your baby brother so your mom can go to Bible study? Do you respond in a cheerful and helpful way when they ask you to do something?
If not, then I encourage you to do something for your parents today. You can do some of the things I listed above or you can think up some of your own. If you have any ideas of how you can help and respect your parents, please post them down below in the comment box, because I would love to hear them!